It's weird, how you can know someone for so long, and not know some of the most basic facts about them. The last few days have involved more new knowledge and experience than the last few weeks put together. Learning is a strange concept, information seeps in so readily, that sometimes you're not even aware of how much you now know. Until you look back and realise, if you asked me those questions last week, I wouldn't have had a clue.
Due to exams and revision and intoxicated apres-exam afternoons, not many people have really been up for heavy nights out. Instead, we've spent time in bars, restaurants and pubs, sitting and talking about anything that crops up. About gap years, about sixth form, about siblings, about partners, about parents, about history. Adding an extra dimension to complete the character profiles, discussing beyond the usual utilitarian conversation. Those evenings are far preferable to drunkenly falling about on the sticky club carpet, with friends only attending so they can spot talent on the dancefloor.
Meeting new people, it's easier to chat in an environment where you're not shouting to be heard. Would I be too much of a weirdo to say I prefer talking over kissing as a means of getting to know someone? It's nice to meet safe bets, as well. People who you know aren't trying it on or trying to network, but genuinely do want to speak to you because you're fun and interesting. Pretentious philosophical conversations under the stars and skipping down the street holding hands - in a way that is only acceptable if you're under ten years old, or alternatively, pretending to be under the influence of alcohol - this is what student life is about.
On the jukebox: James ~ Destiny Calling
Consolidated relationships by 9:45am is quite something, you work fast Miss Flix ;o)
ReplyDeleteWould I be too much of a weirdo to say I prefer talking over kissing as a means of getting to know someone?
I don't think you would. Besides, you can get so much more out of talking to someone that just kissing - that's what you do when you're 13 and relationships don't mean so much or in the same way as they do when you're older.
Reflective Flix
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No, I prefer talking over kissing as a means of getting to know someone, too. Which is why getting to know someone online is good. And then kissing them.
ReplyDelete*Is very smiley today*
"Those evenings are far preferable to drunkenly falling about on the sticky club carpet"
ReplyDeleteAgreed, talking is great. This is one of the reasons I dislike clubbing; sure, you're out with people, but surely going somewhere with (bad) music loud enough to preclude thought - let alone speech - is just antisocial?
Pretentious philosophical conversations under the stars and skipping down the street holding hands - in a way that is only acceptable if you're under ten years old, or alternatively, pretending to be under the influence of alcohol - this is what student life is about.
ReplyDeleteDamn right!
I've always preferred the pub to clubs. Gatherings to houseparties, fires under the stars and crazy ten-year-old skipping to, well, anything else really.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, talking over kissing as a means to get to know someone.
I say this, and yet *I* am the one who gets scraped off the club carpet and dragged home at the end of the night...embarrassingly.
@hannah: Sleep is for the weak. 24hr socalising FTW! :oP
ReplyDelete@Claire: Who? Who? Who?! I've generally thought that relationships that start off online are kind of weird, but that's a story for another day. That's not to say they don't work, though. ;o)