Until I came to university, I never really thought much about homosexuality vs. heterosexuality. Sure, I knew there were gay people, and naturally, some people I wouldn't be surprised to discover they were attracted to the same sex, there was speculation and experimentation but never widely known or accepted. Now, the boundaries seemed to blur a little bit more, with facebook and starting afresh and growing up into yourself, it's interesting to discover who's what and where now. It is gossip-worthy, always, to find that someone from school has turned out to be that way inclined. Some it's so obvious, some not so much.
To be honest, it doesn't seem to make a lot of difference. Some students will have sex with literally anything. Games like "gay chicken" and simply getting so drunk you don't care what parts they've got down there, just so long as there's something to do? It's often seen as a bit risqué to push the acceptable lines of behaviour, but I'm of the opinion that sexuality isn't so clear cut as people like to believe, and it's come to my observation that challenging the conceptions of pre-defined ideas of acceptablity isn't really all that daring. Gay or straight, ugly or gorgeous, these concepts have little effect, because half the time they're all so sexed-up, confused and yearning for attention and affection that it's all the same. And you can always wake up in the morning and blame it on the drink.
It seems that attraction needn't be so gender-defined. If you fancy someone, the first hint of attraction is not usually because they are one gender or another, but because of the way they look, or how they act. An infectious personality can be attractive no matter what kind of person you're into, and while you may be repulsed by the idea of sleeping with someone of a certain sex, I think it is still possible to cross the line of merely 'fancying' them, in a sense, even if it's only in an admiring and enviable way. What I don't really get though, is how it's alright to cheat if it's with someone you're not officially attracted to, as long as they are the opposite sex of your partner. Well, kissing has come to be seen as not such a serious cheating offence anyway. Hey, if you're drunk and your boyfriend's not around, it's okay to want to satisfy your sexual needs to a limited extent, right? If there's obviously no feelings there, it's just a bit of fun?
The thrill involved with doing something unexpected - kisses needn't be a consequence of attraction, or expression of desire? You hug your friends, you hold hands with your friends, why not kiss your friends, too? And if you're a gayboy, of course, what a perfect excuse for you to lull girls into a false sense of security... Well, if it turns into something more, you can always plead bisexuality and ultimate confusion. And then, if it doesn't, that's because you're gay, innit. In fact, it makes perfect sense for guys to pretend to be gay - get all the girls without the guilt.
I'm not really sure how it got to this point.
On the jukebox: Nightmare Of You ~ In The Bathroom Is Where I Want You
It seems that attraction needn't be so gender-defined. If you fancy someone, the first hint of attraction is not usually because they are one gender or another, but because of the way they look, or how they act. An infectious personality can be attractive no matter what kind of person you're into, and while you may be repulsed by the idea of sleeping with someone of a certain sex, I think it is still possible to cross the line of merely 'fancying' them, in a sense, even if it's only in an admiring and enviable way. What I don't really get though, is how it's alright to cheat if it's with someone you're not officially attracted to, as long as they are the opposite sex of your partner. Well, kissing has come to be seen as not such a serious cheating offence anyway. Hey, if you're drunk and your boyfriend's not around, it's okay to want to satisfy your sexual needs to a limited extent, right? If there's obviously no feelings there, it's just a bit of fun?
The thrill involved with doing something unexpected - kisses needn't be a consequence of attraction, or expression of desire? You hug your friends, you hold hands with your friends, why not kiss your friends, too? And if you're a gayboy, of course, what a perfect excuse for you to lull girls into a false sense of security... Well, if it turns into something more, you can always plead bisexuality and ultimate confusion. And then, if it doesn't, that's because you're gay, innit. In fact, it makes perfect sense for guys to pretend to be gay - get all the girls without the guilt.
I'm not really sure how it got to this point.
On the jukebox: Nightmare Of You ~ In The Bathroom Is Where I Want You
Cheating is cheating is cheating, and I should know, having been the cheater in a relationship, with a girl, and with a guy.
ReplyDeleteI also hold my hands up and admit that I have been one of those girls who kiss other girls to obtain male attention. Twas all just a bit of fun, though I did worry it undermined the validity of homosexuality/lesbianism (is that even a word?).
However, I do think that attraction is not gender-specific. There's girls I fancy, guys I fancy, girls I want to have sex with and guys I want to have sex with. At the moment, it's a guy I'm crazy about. But there's nothing to say that won't change, and I'm not so sure why that's still such a radical thing to say.