Organising is such an effort, and so very complicated. Before we even get to the booking of tickets or working out travel options, there's the initial finding out of the whos and whens can make it. Who do we include? When can we do it? Even at school, it'd take us weeks to figure out the simplest situation, spontanaeity was rare, even the odd evening out require rigorious planning. Now, spread across the country, having not met up all together since 2007, we try to conduct a conversation via a discussion thread. This form of technology is very useful, don't get me wrong, without it, we'd never get anywhere - what with crossed phone-calls and mass group texts. But at the same time, it's not the same as sitting down together and trying to figure it out that way. It's so hard to figure out a point when all people are avaliable, and when it comes down to it, inevitably it turns out to be impossible. People have plans, people have partners, people have placements, people have jobs, people have budgets, people have other holidays. There isn't more than one consecutive day where all people have free.
A group holiday is a nice idea, but when it comes down to it, it's just not feasible. Personally, I'd prefer to spend the time with the people I want to spend time with, and I'd like to be able to say - well, if you're not flexible, I'm afraid we're going to have to book it without you. Sometimes, it seems, we're just doing it for the sake of it. Sure, we'd have fun, but it wouldn't be the same as two years ago, and the lack of enthusiam is evident in certain cases.
In all honesty, it's come to the point where I just want to say - let's give it up. We can go for festivals, we can go for days out, we can go to the beach, we can go to the city, but when it comes to going on holiday, perhaps it's best that we just leave it. However, I know that the wave of disappointment, resentment and guilt felt upon making that statement would be more than it's worth.
To love an idea is to love it a little more than one should.
~Jean Rostand
On the jukebox: Wham! ~ Club Tropicana
To love an idea is to love it a little more than one should.
~Jean Rostand
On the jukebox: Wham! ~ Club Tropicana
Organising people who don't really want to be organised is more than a little frustrating. More still when certain people leave it down to few ... it's meant to be a 'group' thing.
ReplyDeleteIn theory it works, in practise it's hard to get it moving. But, if people really want to go they usually make time.
Stick at it if you can :o)
xx
What Hannah said!
ReplyDeleteThe two (proper) holidays with friends that I've been on are two of the best in recent memory - definitely worth the effort :-)