Today, I have been judged by looks alone.
Every day, always. It just makes me wonder, when one day I don't have youth and effortless beauty on my side, will it still be easy to draw people in? Sure, scintillating conversational skills and witty throwbacks work once you reach the interaction stage, but beyond or before that, people look to looks to judge. Often, resorting to appearance as a main means of peer ranking.
"Ok, so maybe he cheated on you, but, but, but...you're prettier than she is"
Personally, I wouldn't find this much of a comfort. Perhaps if you're insecure about your appearance and need a self-esteem boost, but otherwise, knowing that she's not as pretty doesn't make a huge amount of difference. It annoys me when people keep mentioning it as if it's the most influential factor. I think, perhaps, I'd be more insulted if the person he cheated with wasn't as pretty, 'cause then you're forced to wonder what else he is straying for, what other quality she has that makes the betrayal worthwhile, ie. what you don't have.
"Anyway, he's not that hot, you could do better."
It's nice to be with pretty people. I like beautiful boys. There needs to be some form of physical attraction for any relationship to work. But, as is so oft quoted: looks aren't everything.
Every day, always. It just makes me wonder, when one day I don't have youth and effortless beauty on my side, will it still be easy to draw people in? Sure, scintillating conversational skills and witty throwbacks work once you reach the interaction stage, but beyond or before that, people look to looks to judge. Often, resorting to appearance as a main means of peer ranking.
"Ok, so maybe he cheated on you, but, but, but...you're prettier than she is"
Personally, I wouldn't find this much of a comfort. Perhaps if you're insecure about your appearance and need a self-esteem boost, but otherwise, knowing that she's not as pretty doesn't make a huge amount of difference. It annoys me when people keep mentioning it as if it's the most influential factor. I think, perhaps, I'd be more insulted if the person he cheated with wasn't as pretty, 'cause then you're forced to wonder what else he is straying for, what other quality she has that makes the betrayal worthwhile, ie. what you don't have.
"Anyway, he's not that hot, you could do better."
It's nice to be with pretty people. I like beautiful boys. There needs to be some form of physical attraction for any relationship to work. But, as is so oft quoted: looks aren't everything.
On the jukebox: Sean Kingston ~ Beautiful Girls
QFT.
ReplyDeleteAlso, it's one of the things I love about the Internet; that people are judged purely on what they say (unless they stick a picture of themselves up as well, I guess)
I don't think it matters so much when we get old and grey and 'lose' our looks. I like to think by that point people don't judge some much on appearance...of course in some cases that doesn't happen but I think on the whole it works the other way. People are more drawn to you by the way you act and how you talk.
ReplyDeleteI'm not so fussed by looks myself. Believe me or not.
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