Forever in a dilemma, I've already paid £4 to go out with people I don't like to listen to music I don't like, in a bizarre way to try to integrate more.
So do I:
-spend £4 on taxi to and fro?
-spend £# on drinks to drown out the dire dance music and forget my frustrations?
-maybe have some kind of fun at some point, possibly?
Or:
-consider the £4 already paid as sunk costs, and keep taxi and drinks money by not attending at all?
-sleep
So really, I could be saving money by being able to go to bed early, and rest the lumpy head, itchy eyes and tired mind. Or should I spend it to rock the night out as best I can, given the circumstance, and get in the good books of the people I don't care about the opinion of, and who probably won't give a toss about whether I'm there or not?
I think I missed the student social gene somewhere. It's the end of exams, surely I should be spending every night out on the town getting trashed? Or every weekday sitting in coffee shops catching up with old friends and such? All my true friends are far away or on holiday. I had a good night last night, a good lunch out today, can I not just leave it at that and stop feeling so guilty and inadequate?
Vote before this entry disappears on the stroke of the eleventh hour:
Stay In or Go Out?
On the jukebox: Halo Friendlies ~ Me vs. The World
Vote before this entry disappears on the stroke of the eleventh hour:
Stay In or Go Out?
On the jukebox: Halo Friendlies ~ Me vs. The World
I'd say stay in, sleep, recover from the exams and just do whatever you like.
ReplyDeleteIf they won't care about you being there, why be there at all? It'll be a shame to do what you DON'T want to do just to supposedly please some people who don't care, so you might as well stay in, catch up on sleep and generally stop giving a damn what they think.
And then when you see your true friends, go out and get smashed with them! At least you'll enjoy it a lot more than going out with people you don't like, to listen to music you don't like.
I'd vote for staying in.
I went. It was crap. Guilt seeps from my pores as I admit to the fact that I left early and left a 'friend' alone. Just because they would have gladly done the same to me is not an excuse for my behaviour. I'm a bitch.
ReplyDeleteAwww I'm sorry you had such a miserable time!
ReplyDeleteDon't worry about it, what's done is done, there's no use worrying now.
Why DID you go though? I thought you didin't want to?
You bash yourself up about stuff way to much (ignore the hypocritical element in this for the moment) we all make decisions against our better judgement sometimes, that's just how it goes.
ReplyDeleteI'll get some tea and scones in ;o)
xxx
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ReplyDeleteI probably wouldn't have gone. Every time friends persuade me to go out somewhere I don't wanna go, I just end up standing at the side somewhere, overpriced drink (which I don't particularly want, because these places don't tend to sell good drinks) in hand, scowling at everyone having/pretending to have a good time.
You're not a bitch for leaving though. Why stay if you're not enjoying it?
You're definitely not a bitch, and it's a shame you didn't have a good time. I hate it when I've gone out and not really been in the mood to go out, so much so that I've ruined other peoples' nights before now; and if I don't feel like going out these days, I don't let myself. Honestly, don't beat yourself up about leaving :)
ReplyDeleteWhy did I go?
ReplyDeleteThey acted as if they actually wanted me to come. That made all the difference. After a wee nap, I wasn't feeling so tired, so I went.
I got free glow paint and glow sticks. It wasn't all bad.
@hannah: too true
@dickie: not useless, since I will have to make this decision many a time ;)
There's a strong argument for not going out for the sake of it but there's also an argument for sticking your neck out every now and then.
ReplyDeleteI used not to go out at all really, before university, and since coming here I've made a real effort to say yes to things, to try and socialise even if I'd rather read a book that evening or just veg out. Sometimes it hasn't gone to plan and yes, it has felt like a waste of time and money and energy. Sometimes I've got to know people better who I have subsequently ended up being reasonably good friends with, even if they did only ask me out of politeness to start with. You never know if you don't take the risk now and then :-)
Better luck next time!