A friend on her first foray into internet dating. It's funny, because her account of the date began with this sentence and I can completely relate to the first part of it. I know what it's like to speak to people online who appear witty and chatty and clever...I just haven't had the opportunity to see whether that transpires to reality and whether I would receive the same surprise in person.
The thing is, if you join a dating site, that's what you're there for. Dating is the aim, dating is the game. So you exchange a few messages with a view to meet up. And although you may not expect much from it, after all, this person is effectively a stranger to you, you might find that the initial encounter leaves you wanting to see this person again, and again and then maybe you might make a relationship out of it. Or even a new friend. I do wonder if anyone who does internet dating ever has anything between a relationship and a failed dating situation. You know, do people ever meet up and think, hey, neither of us actually fancy each other, but we could actually work out as friends? There's that whole male/female friendship concept, again. I don't need to reiterate my thoughts on that.
But what about if you start talking to people online without the aim of finding a date? Like, erm... this? It's odd. This is a whole facet of my personality that no-one knows about and I was pulled up on it recently by two of the people closest to me. I say about my friend this or my friend that and then it's like...okay, and what's the name of this friend? The fact that you don't say makes it seem like it's a boy secret or something. Well it's not a boy secret, not really, but it is a big secret. Because how do you say, yeah, um, well, this friend, I've just haven't met them yet. But we've done everything but meet, therefore, we are friends...maybe. more.
How do you suddenly reveal a secret that you've been keeping for five years? And what's more, what if they want me to share more of this secret? I don't want people I know to read my blog, though, I know, there's nothing to stop them. I like living a separate life, to a certain extent. I like having separate groups of friends. But shouldn't they at least know of each other? I mean, if you're going to be close to people, shouldn't they at least be aware of one of the most important aspects of your life?
I think I just referred to my blog as one of the most important aspects of my life. I think this may be a problem.
I.Know.Exactly.What.You.Mean!
ReplyDeleteThat said, I'm getting better at casually referring to "So-and-so, who I met on the internet..."
It does help that I have actually *met* most of the internet people by now, even if I knew them through here first, though.
I dunno, my blog is pretty important to me, and quite an important part of my life. You're in no way alone in that :). And... we should meet. If only to save that awkwardness if you ever refer to me :P xx
ReplyDeleteI've only met a couple of the people I know through my blog or otherwise online, so I dunno. I tend to refer to people as so-and-so, without really mentioning the whole internet thing. Just makes things easier. xx
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