Today, I have been dilemma filled.
This time: housing issues. It’s already a week into February, and we haven’t yet sorted a house for next year. I know, I know, it’ll turn out alright eventually, but I’m a chronic worrier, and this has been preying on my mind since the start of term.
There’s six of us currently looking. I only really get on with one of them, but I am absolutely terrified of (a) not having a place to live, and (b) not having people to live with. So I go with the easy option, which while is less than the best, at least I know once we find a place, we’re sorted.
Intertwined with the whole housing thang is the fact that one of my chemchums (we’re not particulary close, but I’ve got to know her a bit better this year) has had a bit of a housing crisis in that two of the people she’s currently living with won’t be with them next year, so they’re stuck with only two of them left, and that’s not a great situation to be in.
She proposed to me today a suggestion that I could consider perhaps joining them? Either on my own as a three or with one of my current housemates, so effectively splitting as two fours. This seems like a plausible idea – chemchum is nice enough, and though I’ve never met her housemate, I’m sure we’d get along fine. The only thing is the whole being with chemistry person 24/7, I don’t know how that would work. I don’t really want to live in a house with two virtual strangers, but I was thinking I could consider asking my current housemate who I do get on with. Searching for two fours would probably be easier than searching for a six, especially when you take into account the desire for double beds. But I’m not sure if I do want to do that.
I’m not sure what the current situation is with six house because nobody talks about it, and I'm wary of bringing it up in conversation because I know I don't really want to have the awkward discussion about it anyway.
I don’t know what to do, and I don’t really want to suggest anything to the others until I’ve talked to my housemate, I don’t want them to feel like they’re left in the lurch. I don’t know what to do, and it’s been doing my head in since my chemchum mentioned the proposal. The hassle-free friendship way would be to stick with six – but would I be happy with four? Or even three? But I don’t want to lose contact completely with the others. Oh, I don’t know.
I know they're not major problems, and in six months or so all will be sorted and neither issue will really matter so much. But I don't feel like I have anyone I can really talk to since two of the people I usually would are directly involved, and a couple of the others are too far away for a proper conversation to be audible or feasible. So I'm stuck, typing it all over rather than speaking it out, hoping that this way at least there's some sort of release?
On the jukebox: Vanessa Carlton ~ White Houses
Its a hard one. I think i'd ask the housemate you get on with if they'd like to move with you to your chemchum's place. That way you're with 2 people (at least) who you know you like, and then hopefully the others are ok too.
ReplyDeleteI'm not really one to give advice about housing though (I left it way too late last year and ended up in a less than ideal situation, but never mind...)
I'd go with the four and the four as well, provided your current housemate is happy with it. Four is a more manageable number than six, both in terms of house-hunting and in terms of running a household, and if you're not happy with your current group of six, why sign up to it voluntarily for another year? You must get on sufficiently well with chemchum for her to have asked you in the first place!
ReplyDeletePlus, living with someone doing the same degree course could be really helpful when it comes to exam revsion and stuff. I often find myself wishing that I had another mathematician...
On a completely unrelated note, pretty please can you use a bigger/ clearer font again? My eyes are kinda messed up as it is 8-)
ReplyDeleteHa, when I write too much blah blah blah about me me me, I tend to do smaller, just cos it seems way longer otherwise. I asked my housemate and she seemed like it could be a good idea, but I couldn't get a concrete "yeah, let's do it" out of her, and didn't want to push it. Tbh, I think chemchum asked me cos she's a bit desperate for people to live with, there being only two of them...
ReplyDeleteArgh, it's the not knowing what's happening that stresses me out the most.
I'll change the font :o)
How well does your housemate you get on with, get on with the rest of the house? I only ask this just so that you consider how readily she'd want to go with you if you did ask her to leave..
ReplyDeleteHowever, despite that I'd go with the four and four as Lucy said...settling is probably the easiest option but not the best option and knowning a little of how it's been like for you this past year - you would have a mental breakdown.
I've got another historian living with me and it does help a treat, plus it helps that we're best mates ;o) It sounds like you get on with your Chemchum better than most of your house. Take a risk, I reckon it'd pay off. :o)
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Thanks for calling by my space... :)
ReplyDeleteAs for you predicament, always go where you'll be the happiest, you can spend a lifetime pleasing other people... and forget to please yourself. Once you get into that frame of living, its hard to get out.
Follow your head and do whats the most practical for you. Real friends will understand your decision and stick by you regardless. :)