"If it were not for hopes, the heart would break."
If he wants to kiss you, he'll try to do so. If he wants your number, he'll get it, if he wants you to have his, he'll give it. If he wants to go on a date with you he'll hint, he'll ask, he'll ask again. If he wants to spend time with you, he'll travel across the country for just an evening together, he'll rearrange his plans to make sure there's time, he'll be enthusiastic if you suggest meeting up.
In my experience, if he wants it, he'll make the move to get it.
Hence, if he doesn't make that move, I would have to presume he doesn't want it. Or he doesn't want it all that much, at least. If he kisses you but doesn't ask for your number, he probably doesn't want more than that. If he has your number but doesn't use it, he probably doesn't want to have that line of communication open. If he doesn't put the effort in, it's probably because he doesn't care that much. If he doesn't ask questions, he's probably not bothered about the answers.
If he responds to your attempts at contact, yet still keeps his distance, he's probably not wanting to appear rude. If he rarely initiates the conversation, he probably doesn't mind that much whether you do. It's not to say he doesn't like you, that he doesn't get on with you, that he wouldn't mind the odd flirt or night or date every now and again, but he's probably just not that into you. Also, if he's never explicitly indicated that he would want to be with you or you haven't directly asked, whatever the circumstances may be, you kind of need to accept at some point that you can't really blame him for not calling you. It's not just because he's a boy or you're reticent or he's useless or you're both busy or whatever excuses you can find to make. I'm sure this can be the same for girls, too. The truth is they simply don't want it as much as you do.
There's no maybe about it.
There's no maybe about it.
Sometimes, things just don't work out the way you hope.
Flitterbox: Ellie Goulding ~ Guns and Horses
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ReplyDeleteNo point dwelling on something that was clearly unreciprocated. I'm sorry to read about it, but sometimes, guys really don't know what they're missing (and neither do us girls!) by dismissing someone.
ReplyDelete*sigh*. yes, I've just had to confront this exact situation; to the extent that I almost wondered if you were writing this for me more than yourself...! It's just life, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteI seem to get every man I go after.
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